Men’s Counselling & Coaching
For many men, emotions have been something to manage quietly rather than express. You might have learned early on to keep the lid on anger, push sadness to the side, hide shame, or simply power through when you feel overwhelmed. Those lessons often come from subtle but powerful messages picked up at home, in school, and in the wider world. Parents, even with the best intentions, may have passed on unspoken rules about how a “strong” man should cope - that feelings are a sign of weakness, or that speaking up is “making a fuss.”
These expectations don’t always stop when you grow up. In adulthood, spouses, partner, friends, parents or in-laws may still hold strong ideas about what your role should be, how you should behave, or what is and isn’t acceptable.
You might feel pressure to be:
the provider
The steady one
The problem solver
the decision-maker
the rock of the family
the one who never wavers
And if you step outside of those unspoken rules, you might face judgement, disapproval, or subtle withdrawal of support.
Over time, these roles can make it hard to admit you’re struggling - even to yourself.
For some men, these pressures are layered with questions around gender or identity - what it means to be a man in their own eyes versus how others see them. You might be navigating expectations about masculinity that don’t fit you, or exploring aspects of yourself that feel at odds with how you think you’re “supposed” to be. That dissonance can be exhausting, especially if you’ve never had a safe place to talk about it openly.
You might appear fine to others, keeping things going, but inside it can feel very different. The cost of carrying that weight in silence can show up as stress, burnout, disconnection, or a sense that you are living life on autopilot.
In my work, I meet men who are under pressure at work, struggling in relationships, adjusting to fatherhood, coping with grief, or simply feeling stuck without knowing why. Some have developed ways to cope that blunt the edges, but perhaps don’t bring real relief. Others have reached a point where the old strategies are no longer enough.
This is a space where you don’t have to keep up the performance. You can arrive with whatever you are carrying; frustration, uncertainty, anger, hope, exhaustion and know it will be met with honesty, warmth, and respect.
In our sessions, we might work on:
Finding words for emotions you’ve had to hide
Loosening the grip of stress, anxiety, or anger
Understanding how shame and self-criticism take hold
Exploring how childhood, parental, spousal, and social expectations have shaped you - both then and now
Navigating questions of gender, masculinity, and personal identity
Building healthier relationships with yourself and others
Discovering ways of coping that feel right for you now
Reconnecting with parts of yourself you’ve pushed aside
Coaching to unearth what matters to you and how you can achieve your goals, in life and work.
